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Strengthen Your Mother-Daughter Connection

Strengthen Your Mother-Daughter Connection

Hey moms, your daughters are listening and watching and they want to connect with you! Author Vikki Carrel, explains how to create a strong mother daughter connection.

Why is the mother daughter connection important?

According to the latest research the mother/daughter connection

-is vital to a girls physical and emotional health

-influences thriving conditions for girls: confidence, competence, connection, caring and contribution

-prevents alcohol, drug use and risky sexual behavior

-clears up confusing messages about girls' bodies and abilities

Mothers play a key role in developing a successful connection with their daughters.

The most important thing a mother can do to teach her daughter how to ‚"ėmake sense out of the world' is to spend time bonding with her daughter - especially at an early age.

Mothers are ROLE models for their daughters.

A mother's beliefs and behaviors influence her daughter's thoughts and actions - having more power and influence than any other factor in her life.

Three important things a mother can do for her daughter are‚"¶

-Empower her with confidence and self belief

-Believe in the relationship she and her daughter share

-Connect with her daughter



© Life is so busy - I have trouble finding time to connect with my daughter.

Regardless of your daughter's age - finding time to connect with her can be a challenge. Three social trends that affect connecting:

¨the economy - more hours at work - less time to connect

¨over-scheduling - parents and children are overly involved - leaving little time to connect with each other

¨technology - cell phones and social media have taken the place of real face time

-Invest time - commit to ten minutes of uninterrupted time a day to spend with your daughter.

-Start a mother daughter connection tradition - choose an activity you both enjoy and do it regularly.

--Make connecting with your daughter a priority.


© My daughter seems to struggle with life's stresses. How can I help her manage stress?

-Be a positive role model. Manage stress in your own life.

-Help her feel competent and confident. Girls who feel competent and confident can cope with life's stresses better than those who do not.

-Address her stress. Don't be afraid to ask her directly how she feels or what she needs from you.

-Teach her to self advocate by recognizing her feelings and expressing them.


© My daughter seems to have little belief in herself. How can I help her to feel more confident?

-Teach her to empower herself from within by focusing on inner qualities not external sources.

-Encourage her to recognize and appreciate her gifts and talents.

-Help her to become strong, feel good about who she is and draw upon her inner sources by‚"¶

1. Getting to know herself well

2. Thinking of herself as capable

3. Believing that she is able to measure up to other's expectations


© When I try to talk with my daughter about drugs and alcohol she seems uninterested and tunes me out. How can I communicate effectively with her?

When it comes to dangerous substances don't assume your daughter knows where you stand. She may act bored or like she isn't listening but she is hearing you‚"¶so keep talking. Your opinion about drugs, alcohol and

risky sexual behavior matter significantly when it comes to the choices your daughter will make.

-set time aside to talk in a distraction free environment

-set clear rules and include the consequences if rules are not followed

-stay involved in her life and get to know her friends

-allow her time to voice her opinion and share her feelings

-be positive but firm


© There are so many mixed messages out there. How can I help my daughter feel good about her body and abilities?

-Feel positive about your body. Your daughter looks to you for advice on healthy living.

-Promote a healthy body image by teaching your daughter to appreciate her body for what it does - not how it looks.

-Teach your daughter to focus on inner qualities not outward appearance.

-Help your daughter understand that happiness is cultivated by accepting herself, appreciating her abilities and discovering her inner strengths.

Vikki Carrel is an author, speaker and founder of The Empowerment Project. To schedule a "Mother Daughter Connection" presentation for your school or girl's group, visit Vikki's website:

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