Sometimes embracing discomfort is the way forward.
Change is hard… and, usually uncomfortable. But if you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or craving something different, maybe it’s time to lean into a little discomfort.
Emotional Performance Coach Natty Lewis shared five healthy but uncomfortable actions to transform the way you think, feel, and show up in your life.
Feel and Move
Natty emphasized the importance of movement when dealing with big emotions. She explained, “We have a tendency when we feel things, especially women, to stop and become stationary. We want to sit, scroll on our phone, or curl up in a blanket.” This is a natural reaction, but it often leads to stagnation.
Natty believes that the only way to move healthily through these emotions is to physically move your body. “When you feel the big emotions, don’t sit. Move.” Whether it’s going for a walk, doing some sit-ups, or even jumping jacks, the key is to disrupt the pattern of inactivity. This action can be uncomfortable at first, but it is essential for emotional health and resilience.
Give Space, Then Communicate
Natty discussed the importance of giving space before communicating, especially during heated moments. She advised, “Instead of attacking the problem right away, say, ‘Mommy needs three minutes. I’ll be right back.'” This approach allows you to regulate your emotions and communicate from a place of calmness.
Natty stressed that giving space with boundaries is crucial for safe communication. “Space with boundaries is the only safe space to give.” This means not just walking away, but informing the other person that you need a moment. This practice can prevent emotional outbursts and foster healthier interactions with loved ones.
Ask Intentional, Open-Ended Questions
Natty highlighted the value of asking intentional, open-ended questions to build relationships. She noted, “We ask a lot of questions like ‘How was your day?’ and every kid says ‘Good.’ Instead, ask ‘How did you feel about your day today?’ or ‘What did you do today?'” These questions require more thought and provide deeper insights into the person’s experiences and feelings. Natty suggested tailoring questions based on the individual’s personality. For example, asking a feeler, “How did you feel about your day today?” or a doer, “What did you do today?” This approach can lead to more meaningful conversations and stronger connections.
Prioritize Sleep
Natty pointed out that many people sabotage their sleep during important moments in life. She said, “We tend to stay up late to get personal space, but if your time ends up being until one o’clock in the morning and you’re not getting sleep, it really is not serving you.” Sleep is vital for overall well-being, and prioritizing it can be uncomfortable but transformative.
Natty emphasized the importance of prioritizing sleep over distractions like scrolling on your phone. “It’s uncomfortable and it’s incredibly healthy and it’s a game changer. The happiness people find when they sleep is really remarkable.” Making a conscious decision to get enough sleep can significantly improve your mental and physical health.
End Your Day on Purpose
Natty encouraged ending the day with intention to set yourself up for success in the morning. She explained, “If your morning routine looks like going to the gym, lay your clothes out at night before you even go to bed.” This simple act can make it easier to stick to your morning routine.
Natty believes that organizing your evening routine can empower your success in the morning. “If your morning routine is to wake up and spend personal time, then spend a little time that night organizing your house so that when you wake up for your personal time, it doesn’t turn into home and family time.” Ending your day on purpose means preparing for the next day and ensuring that your morning starts smoothly.
By embracing these five actions, you can transform your life and achieve real growth. “Get real comfortable getting uncomfortable, and let’s go get what you want,” Natty emphasized. These practices may be challenging at first, but they are essential for personal development and emotional well-being. Remember, growth starts with discomfort, and by leaning into it, you can unlock your true potential.
Find more inspiration from Natty on Instagram, @natty.o.lewis, and coaching services on her website, ascendeq.com.
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