Boost your confidence in parenting!
Wake up feeling joy and like your best self each day.
Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson, talking directly to the moms and nanas, shared how to raise your self-esteem so that you can feel content and confident in your role.
What is Confidence in Parenting and Grandparenting?
Heather explained that confidence in parenting and grandparenting means waking up every day trusting in our abilities and capacities. It’s about managing whatever emotions we experience and believing we can handle whatever comes our way.
Barriers to Confidence
Several factors can hinder our confidence as parents and grandparents:
- Negative Self-Talk: If we constantly tell ourselves we’re overwhelmed or incapable, it undermines our confidence.
- External Validation: Allowing others’ choices to dictate our confidence is detrimental. Confidence should come from within, not from external circumstances.
- Comparison and Judgment: Comparing ourselves to others and feeling judged can erode our self-esteem.
- Past Failures: Dwelling on past mistakes can prevent us from feeling confident in our current abilities.
Five Ways to Boost Confidence
Heather shared five practical ways to build confidence:
- Ask Confident Questions
Ask yourself, “What would I do if I was more confident?” Your brain will provide answers, which can become your new to-do list. For example, if the answer is to have a difficult conversation with a teacher, then that’s what you should do.
- Reality Check
Recognize that people are often too busy worrying about themselves to judge you. Heather reminded us, “In reality, they’re really busy and really worried about everyone judging them.”
- Positive “What If” Questions
Instead of negative “what if” questions, ask positive ones. For example, “What if I can handle this?” or “What if I am capable?” This shift in mindset can significantly boost your confidence.
- Let Go of Being the Best
Confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about managing emotions and handling situations as they come. Heather emphasized, “Confidence is managing our emotions regardless of the circumstances.”
- Control What You Can
Focus on what you can control and let go of the rest. This approach reduces anxiety and helps you manage your responsibilities more effectively.
To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.
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