‘Family is different than friends.’ 6 universal truths that apply to all families

No matter what your family looks like, these universal truths apply.

No matter the size, age, or closeness of your family, certain truths apply universally.

Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson shared six truths about families that can strengthen and refine our relationships when understood and applied.

1. Mixed Emotions in Families Are Normal

It’s completely normal to have mixed emotions about family members. As Heather explained, “You can love your family and also be frustrated with them.” This understanding helps us realize that conflicting feelings don’t indicate dysfunction, but are a natural part of family dynamics.

2. Parents Are Always Parents

The role of a parent doesn’t end when children grow up. Heather reminded us, “Our parents have sacrificed and loved and served for decades. That doesn’t just turn off.” Recognizing this helps us give grace to our parents and understand their continued involvement in our lives.

3. Family Is Different Than Friendships

Family relationships are inherited, not chosen, which elevates them to a different level than friendships. Heather emphasized, “This should be a place where we’re putting our best work, our greatest patience, our grace, our love, our forgiveness, our kindness.”

4. Obligations and Love Can Go Together

Family obligations can often feel like burdens, but they are expressions of love. Heather explained, “Obligations completely change from a burden to love when we’re willing to realize, ‘I’m patient, I help with math, I plan for college futures… because I love our children and love our family.'”

5. Families Can Be Close and Distant

It’s possible to feel close to family members without constant communication. Heather noted, “We can be close to them. We can talk to them less often and still have that closeness.” This understanding helps us maintain healthy boundaries while preserving family bonds.

6. Most People Regret Cutting Off Family Members

Cutting off family members can lead to regret and unresolved grief. Heather advised, “We are happiest when we always leave a door open.” Keeping an open mind and maintaining some level of connection, even if it’s challenging, can prevent long-term regret.

Understanding these six truths about families can help us navigate the complexities of family relationships with more grace and patience. Embracing these truths allows us to see our family dynamics in a healthier, more constructive light.

To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.