We all know some glowing couples.
Ever noticed those couples that just click, the ones who take care of and adore each other? According to Brigham Young University Professor Chelom Leavitt, these partnerships are special because they bask in each other’s sunlight.
Dr. Leavitt shared the qualities that make these couples shine.
Embracing Conflict
One of the standout qualities of glowing couples is their approach to conflict. Dr. Leavitt explained, “In order for you to really see what’s glowing, you also have to see what’s in the shadows.” These couples appreciate both the wonderful and sorrowful parts of their partner, understanding that conflict is a natural part of any relationship. They aren’t afraid to face it head-on.
Understanding the Source of Conflict
Glowing couples dig beneath the surface to understand the emotions driving their disagreements. Dr. Leavitt noted, “Conflict is nothing more than a little flag saying something’s off balance.” By exploring the underlying issues, these couples learn more about each other and strengthen their bond.
Basking in Each Other’s Sunlight
These couples truly enjoy each other’s good qualities without being competitive or keeping score. They savor sweet moments and accept each other’s weaknesses and faults. Dr. Leavitt emphasized, “We’re each so multifaceted. There’s so much to each of us and our backgrounds.”
Accepting Emotions
Mindfulness plays a crucial role in glowing relationships. Dr. Leavitt’s research highlights the importance of being aware of both your own and your partner’s emotions. She recalled a touching moment with her husband: “I was having a particularly hard time, and he turned to me and just said, ‘I love your emotion.'”
Effective Communication
Good communication is a hallmark of these relationships. Glowing couples are able to discuss conflicts, understand the root causes, and feel seen and understood by each other. Dr. Leavitt stated, “Being seen is so close to love that for most of us it’s just indistinguishable.”
Growing Together
Finally, glowing couples are committed to growing together. They view conflict as an opportunity for deeper intimacy and personal growth. Dr. Leavitt concluded, “Conflict is an opportunity for deeper intimacy because I’m gonna dig down and understand what’s beneath that, and intimacy is really grown by discovering new parts of myself and my partner.”
Find more from Dr. Leavitt at chelomleavitt.com.
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