Sometimes we just need to listen.
Life throws a lot at you and it’s tempting to try to juggle it all, but here’s the hard truth: you can’t.
Julie Taylor believes the key isn’t doing everything, but knowing what’s yours to do. There’s a time to hold, a time to heal, and a time to hear.
The Art of Holding
“Things that are ours to hold are the things that actually fall under our umbrella of accountability.”
Holding refers to managing the responsibilities that are truly ours. This includes our jobs, our children, and the commitments we make. It’s crucial to recognize what is genuinely ours to handle and avoid taking on more than we can manage. Julie suggested a helpful tip: if you can’t say yes without resentment, it’s a no.
The Process of Healing
“Healing is tricky because we try to heal other people and that’s actually something that we can’t do.”
Healing involves taking accountability for our actions and apologizing when necessary. While we can support others in their healing journey, we cannot heal them ourselves. Our role is to show up, love, and support, but ultimately, healing is a personal journey.
The Importance of Hearing
“Let me listen. Let me hear this. I’m not going to insert myself. I’m not going to pick it up. I’m not going to try to fix it, but I am going to listen.”
Hearing is about being present and listening to others without trying to fix their problems. It’s about validating their experiences and offering support without taking on their burdens. This is especially important in adult relationships, where simply being there to listen can make a significant difference.
Balancing Sympathy and Empathy
“When you know your worth as an individual is not dependent on how much you do for other people and how many other people’s problems you solve, you’re able to come to a situation and not make it about you.”
Julie emphasized the importance of knowing your limits and trusting your worth. By understanding that your value isn’t tied to solving others’ problems, you can better balance sympathy and empathy, offering genuine support without overextending yourself.
For more insights from Julie, you can find her on Instagram at @thejulietaylor.
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