Here’s the formula for becoming an inviting friend.
We all know behaviors that push people away… negativity, lack of empathy, and excessive criticism. But how can we become the kind of person who invites others in and makes them feel welcome?
Dr. Matt Townsend shared his formula for becoming someone others want to be around.
Be Friendly
The simplest way to invite others in is to be friendly. “You’re just a friend. You bring out the best in others. You bring light and energy, you bring all of these opportunities and it’s so interesting and enticing that they want to be a part of your life,” Matt explained.
Faithfully Show Loyalty to the Absent
To be a good friend, it’s crucial to show loyalty to those who are not present. “You can’t gossip, you can’t talk behind their back. The minute they hear you talking negatively about other friends, it’s not as inviting,” Matt explained. Loyalty and faithfulness are key to building trust.
Reflect the Good You See in Others
A good friend helps others see their goodness. “If you reflect my best side, if you see that I’m doing something really well and you point it out, that is the power of being a friend,” Matt said. Reflecting positivity helps others see themselves in a better light.
Invite Others Into Your Circle
Being an inviter is essential. “Are you somebody that likes to expand the circle? Or are you somebody that tries to shrink the circle?” Matt asked. Expanding your circle and inviting others in makes everyone feel included.
Energize Your Interactions with Positivity
Are you an energy source or an energy suck? “At the end of the day, people should feel better after being with you,” Matt advised. Positive interactions energize others and make them want to be around you.
Notice the Now
Being present is vital. “If you’re never in the present with the people that you’re around, then you actually never see them,” Matt pointed out. Paying attention and being in the moment strengthens connections.
Do What You Say You’re Going to Do
Consistency and integrity are fundamental. “Just be honest and show integrity. Do what you say you’re gonna do,” Matt emphasized. Reliability builds trust and solidifies relationships.
“All these ways, all these things you learned in kindergarten,” Matt emphasized. Sometimes, we just need a reminder to apply these simple principles in our daily lives.
Find more advice from Matt at matttownsend.com.
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