Talking back is an opportunity for teens to learn communication skills.
Does it ever feel like your teenager is trying to frustrate you? Maybe you feel out of sync and struggle to understand their behaviors. These feelings are common among parents raising teens.
Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson offered hopeful news: those frustrating behaviors are actually signs of healthy development.
The Importance of Perspective
Heather explained that the way we view our teenager’s behavior dictates how we show up as parents. If we see their actions as frustrating, we may struggle to manage our emotions and communicate effectively. Instead, we should recognize these behaviors as part of their growth and development.
Risk-Taking
Teenagers love to take risks, which can be frustrating for parents. However, risk-taking is essential for developing critical thinking skills and decision-making abilities. Heather suggested viewing risk-taking as an opportunity for teens to learn about consequences and circumstances, helping them make better decisions in the future.
Talking Back
Talking back is one of the most frustrating behaviors for parents. Heather encouraged us to see it differently: it’s an opportunity for teens to learn how to communicate, manage their emotions, and express themselves. If we view talking back as a sign that they feel safe enough to be open with us, it can change how we handle these situations.
Not Taking Advice
When teenagers don’t take our advice, it can feel like they don’t trust us or think we’re knowledgeable. Heather explained that they’re trying to develop independence and autonomy. By seeing this behavior as a way for them to learn to trust themselves, we can create a safe space for them to negotiate and make decisions.
Negotiating
Teenagers often try to negotiate with parents, whether it’s about curfew or tasks. Heather suggested viewing negotiation as a way for teens to develop critical thinking skills, self-awareness, and the ability to advocate for themselves. Encouraging these skills helps them grow into confident adults.
To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.
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