Skip the resolutions and just focus on change this new year.
As we step into 2025, many of us are setting goals and making resolutions.
However, Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson suggested a different approach: focus on change instead of resolutions. She shared why and how you can effectively embrace change this year.
Why Resolutions Fall Short
Heather explained that resolutions often fail because they are made out of a sense of obligation rather than genuine motivation. “We tend to make them because we think we should,” she said. This misplaced motivation sets us up for failure from the start.
Additionally, resolutions are often postponed until the new year, which can delay personal growth. Heather advised, “If you are prompted in the middle of May to make a difference or a change to grow, you will. We should just go for it then.”
The Challenges of Change
Change is inherently difficult because it pushes us out of our comfort zones. Heather noted, “We are wired for comfort and to fight against anything that’s uncertain.” This natural resistance makes change challenging.
Likewise, external pushback, such as family resistance to new habits, can further complicate the process. Heather emphasized, “Change is hard, but change is good.”
Redefining Change
To make change more manageable, Heather suggested redefining it as growth and opportunity. “We want to see change as opportunities,” she said. Instead of setting vague goals like “get fit” or “be a better mom,” focus on specific, actionable steps. This specificity helps avoid feelings of shame and keeps you motivated.
Avoiding Justification
One major obstacle to change is justification. Heather explained, “Anytime we talk to ourselves in ways that help us feel better about going against the values that we’re subscribing to, we’ve justified.” To overcome this, align your actions with your values and avoid talking yourself out of necessary changes.
The Importance of Specificity
Being specific about your goals is crucial. Heather advised breaking down changes into the smallest possible steps. This makes goals more achievable and helps avoid the paralysis that comes with feeling overwhelmed. “Any changes you want to make, break it down as tiny as you can break it down. It will help,” she said.
Considering Your Motive
Heather warned against making changes based on comparison with others. “We want to make changes because we’ve decided that there are ways we’re not living up to our values that we want to do better in,” she said. Focus on what is right for you and your personal growth, not on keeping up with others.
Embracing Grace
Finally, Heather highlighted the importance of grace in the process of change. “Grace gives us this opportunity to try every day,” she said. It allows you to accept the pace of your progress and to keep trying even when things don’t go smoothly. Grace is the lens through which you can view the discomfort of change and continue to grow.
Remember, change is not about perfection; it’s about growth and continuous improvement.
To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.
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