‘Children are born to follow mom.’ How to step into your leadership role as a matriarch

Matriarch is a leadership role.

The term “matriarch” might not be one you use often, but many women are stepping into this role, leading their families with intention and confidence. A matriarch is simply a woman who is the head of her family. For many, this role can feel overwhelming, but it also offers a unique opportunity to shape the family’s generational chapter.

Studio 5 Relationship Contributor Dr. Matt Townsend emphasized that leadership in a family is fundamentally about relationships. He stated, “Everything that makes a great leader is what makes a great mom. They’re the same thing.” This perspective reframes the concept of leadership, making it more accessible and relatable for women.

Overcoming Myths About Leadership

Myths about leadership can hold women back from becoming a confident matriarch. Matt addressed these misconceptions:

1. Leaders Have All the Answers: “Not true. They just know how to go find them.”
2. Men Are Better Leaders Than Women: “Research shows that women excel in communication, conflict resolution, and participation.”
3. Leaders Must Be Charismatic and Extroverted: “You can be a powerful leader and an introvert.”
4. Leaders Have to Do More Than Followers: “You’re already doing more than everyone else as mom, but you don’t have to.”
5. The Family Won’t Follow Me: “Children are born to follow mom. It’s in you already.”

The Importance of Family Culture

A key aspect of being a matriarch is being the keeper of your family’s culture. This involves maintaining and adapting traditions, values, and customs. Matt suggested, “Go back to the past and bring the traits of your ancestors and your history into the new age, connecting generations.”

Leading with Intention

Leadership is not about managing things, but about leading people. Matt advised, “Focus on the people and find ways to connect to them. Love them, listen to them, enroll them, let them choose, let them have agency and choice.”

Stepping into the role of a matriarch is about embracing your inherent leadership qualities and guiding your family with intention and love. As Matt put it, “It’s all people. It’s all relationship. It’s all connection.”

Find more advice from Matt at matttownsend.com.