Hidden habits could be causing your anxiety. Here are 5 common ones to look for in yourself

Do you fall victim to any of these hidden habits?

Recent research reveals that much of the anxiety we experience stems from our personal habits. This is promising because it means we have control over these habits.

Studio 5 Relationship Contributor Dr. Matt Townsend points out some of our habits are hidden, making it challenging to identify and change them.

Matt shared a personal story to illustrate this concept. He received a water bill that was 50 times higher than usual. After investigation, it was discovered that a drinking fountain in his backyard had been leaking for years, draining water and money without anyone noticing.

“How could something so awesome, a drinking fountain for the kids, be draining our pockets, draining our life without any of us knowing?” he reflected.

This story highlights the challenge we all face: uncovering hidden habits that drain us. Matt identified five profiles of hidden habits that contribute to anxiety:

1. Feed Me Seymour Syndrome: Inspired by “Little Shop of Horrors,” this habit involves constantly seeking more stimulation. “We can’t go on a walk without listening to a podcast and texting our friend,” Matt explained. This overstimulation drains our energy, and we need to learn to create space and reduce the constant influx of information.
2. Overdoer: Some people feel the need to do more and more to validate themselves. They might stress over making perfect cookies for an event, going above and beyond unnecessarily. “We did this all to ourselves,” Matt noted. Recognizing and addressing this habit can help reduce anxiety.
3. Underdoer: The opposite of the overdoer, underdoers avoid responsibilities and tasks, which can also be draining. “Just return the call. Get it done,” advised Matt. Taking small steps to accomplish tasks can alleviate the stress of avoidance.
4. Naysayer: Constant negativity and cynicism can isolate individuals and increase anxiety. “One of the signs you’re a naysayer is people aren’t around you,” Matt Townsend pointed out. Shifting to a more positive outlook can improve mental well-being.
5. Perpetual Pleaser: Those who say yes to everything often end up overwhelmed and drained. “At some point, you’ve got to learn to say no,” Matt emphasized. Learning to prioritize self-care is crucial.

Matt’s Becoming One program offers tools and coaching to help individuals on their journey to improve their relationships. Learn more at matttownsend.com.