In order to better appreciate our partners, we have to clearly understand what it means to appreciate another person. Here are four dictionary definitions for the word ‘appreciate’ and a list of activities every person can do appreciate their partner more fully.
Studio 5 Relationship Coach Matt Townsend points out ways to appreciate your partner now.
1.) To be grateful or thankful for: they appreciated his thoughtfulness.
· Thank your partner daily for all they do!
· Make a list of 100 things your partner does that you are grateful for and share the list with your partner.
· Identify three things a day that your partner has done that you appreciated and share those before bedtime.
· Tell others how thankful you are for your partner and what they do that makes a difference.
· Leave notes, texts messages and other messages to recognize all they do.
2.) To value or regard highly; place a high estimate on: to appreciate good dinner.
· Ask for their opinion about things and actually follow their advice.
· Take the time to listen to what they are saying.
· Be patient with your partner, open doors, be courteous.
· Respect them in front of the children and teach your children to respect them.
· Imagine that your partner had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and determine how you would treat them differently. Then live the change!
3.) To be fully conscious of; be aware of; detect: to appreciate the dangers of a situation.
· Be Present!
· Turn off the distractions (cell phones, internet, TV).
· Hold their hand or touch them more when you’re around them.
· Maintain more eye contact with your partner.
· Actively engage and listen in conversations and discussions.
· Ask yourself regularly… “What is the most important thing I can do in this moment to appreciate my partner more?”
4.) To raise in value; to increase in value: property values appreciated yearly.
· Compliment your partner on their strengths and gifts.
· Brag about your partner to others and in front of others and keep doing so until your partner hears about it.
· Share your partner’s life stories and most positive moments with your children and grandchildren.
· Invite them to do what they do best and to share their talents whenever you can.
· Always talk about them in their absence, the way you would talk about them if they were present.
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