How To Ap`pre´ci`ate Your Partner

In order to better appreciate our partners, we have to clearly understand what it means to appreciate another person. Here are four dictionary definitions for the word ‘appreciate’ and a list of activities every person can do appreciate their partner more fully.

Studio 5 Relationship Coach Matt Townsend points out ways to appreciate your partner now.


1.) To be grateful or thankful for: they appreciated his thoughtfulness.

· Thank your partner daily for all they do!

· Make a list of 100 things your partner does that you are grateful for and share the list with your partner.

· Identify three things a day that your partner has done that you appreciated and share those before bedtime.

· Tell others how thankful you are for your partner and what they do that makes a difference.

· Leave notes, texts messages and other messages to recognize all they do.

2.) To value or regard highly; place a high estimate on: to appreciate good dinner.

· Ask for their opinion about things and actually follow their advice.

· Take the time to listen to what they are saying.

· Be patient with your partner, open doors, be courteous.

· Respect them in front of the children and teach your children to respect them.

· Imagine that your partner had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness and determine how you would treat them differently. Then live the change!

3.) To be fully conscious of; be aware of; detect: to appreciate the dangers of a situation.

· Be Present!

· Turn off the distractions (cell phones, internet, TV).

· Hold their hand or touch them more when you’re around them.

· Maintain more eye contact with your partner.

· Actively engage and listen in conversations and discussions.

· Ask yourself regularly… “What is the most important thing I can do in this moment to appreciate my partner more?”

4.) To raise in value; to increase in value: property values appreciated yearly.

· Compliment your partner on their strengths and gifts.

· Brag about your partner to others and in front of others and keep doing so until your partner hears about it.

· Share your partner’s life stories and most positive moments with your children and grandchildren.

· Invite them to do what they do best and to share their talents whenever you can.

· Always talk about them in their absence, the way you would talk about them if they were present.

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