You can find love in later years.
Finding love in later years is “complicated” – according to one Utah couple. Now, after their own experiences, they are exploring a relationship dynamic we don’t talk about much: marriage and dating for those over 30 looking for marriage and lasting love.
Jeff and Cathy Teichert met and married later in life – after previous divorces, and both wondering if they would ever find love again. Now they are helping others navigate the world of second chances.
Their book, “Intentional Courtship: A mid-singles guide to peace, progress and pairing up” is a unique resource for a unique audience.
Jeff and Cathy are both certified life coaches and can help people through this process of finding love. Visit their website for a coaching session: loveinlateryears.com/lily-coaching/
Finding Love in Later Years
Jeff had a point in your life where it felt he was living in a tragedy. It seemed everything was going wrong. He was laid off from a corporate job and facing divorce for the second time — these events opened space for meeting and marrying Cathy and unexpectedly landing a dream job. Had these things not happened, he might still be running oil and gas titles in east Texas instead of advising the Governor and the Legislature about important constitutional issues.
After her divorce, Cathy explains she felt pain in her chest so deeply she truly wondered how it was humanly possible to survive it. “I didn’t see myself ever being happy again,” she says. Divorce is very painful, but Jeff and Cathy want to empower people in that situation to feel capable of finding love. They share a four-step process to dealing with the pain of divorce, to empowering yourself to find love again.
They say you have to find forgiveness and let go of what’s lost, accept what is, and take steps to overcome fear and trauma. Nearly all divorce leads some emotional trauma.
You have to be willing to self-reflect and change for the better, intentionally creating joy and goodness, become a happy person. “One of the best things I did to prepare myself for remarriage was to do empowering things, like going back to my maiden name, finishing up professional training, and buying my own home,” says Cathy.
Vulnerability and authenticity are the keys to creating connection and eventual commitment.
Most importantly, Jeff and Cathy want to let others know that there is hope following divorce.
Jeff says “our greatest blessings come out of what we thought were tragedies.”