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Many families are feeling divided. 4 principles to help you heal during divisive times

There are so many people feeling divided right now. Here’s how to help…

A Studio 5 viewer recently wrote in asking, “With this recent election, there are so many hurting. My own family is feeling divided and it’s breaking my heart. How can we heal hearts within the family?”

We hear you, and we want to help you. Studio 5 Relationship Contributor Dr. Matt Townsend shared four essential principles to help families reconnect with one another.

 

  1. Humanize, Don’t Demonize

Matt emphasized the importance of seeing the humanity in others, especially when tensions are high. By focusing on empathy over judgment, families can build bridges and strengthen relationships.

Activity Suggestion: Engage in a “Story Swap” during family gatherings. Invite each member to share a personal story that shaped who they are, encouraging others to listen without interrupting or judging.

  1. Expand Your Self-Awareness

Healing begins with self-reflection. Matt highlighted the Dunning-Kruger effect, where individuals with limited knowledge overestimate their abilities. He encouraged family members to look inward, acknowledge their imperfections, and understand their role in conflicts.

Activity Suggestion: Write personal reflection letters. Each family member can reflect on their strengths and areas for improvement, fostering humility and accountability.

  1. Appreciate the Given Gifts Over the Expected Gifts

Matt advised appreciating family members for who they are, rather than imposing expectations. By valuing each other’s unique qualities, families can create a more positive and supportive environment.

Activity Suggestion: Make a list of positive attributes each family member brings to the table. Focus on gratitude and celebrate each other’s individuality.

  1. Live Your Highest Ideals

Inspired by Gandhi’s principle of being the change you wish to see, Matt urged families to lead with love, not fear. Embracing compassion and empathy in every interaction can transform family dynamics and promote healing.

Activity Suggestion: Identify and commit to living by your highest principles. Reflect on past conflicts and ensure your actions align with your core values.


Find more advice from Dr. Matt on his website, matttownsend.com.

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