Pause before reacting. 6 habits of emotionally intelligent parents

You can become more emotionally intelligent as a parent when you do these things.

We often think that managing our kids’ emotions is a top priority in parenting. Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson believes that parents should focus more on their own emotions, for that’s when you truly feel confident and capable in motherhood.

As part of our series, “Habits Of,” Heather revealed the six habits of an emotionally intelligent parent.

1. Be Honest with Yourself

One of the most important habits is to be honest with yourself. This means daily self-reflection on your emotions and interactions. Heather explained, “It’s a willingness to look at the patterns that I have of interactions with other people and ask, where is it that I’m contributing in positive or negative ways?”

2. Don’t Look Back

Avoid holding grudges and focus on moving forward. Heather used the story of Lot’s wife from the Bible to illustrate this point: “She didn’t have enough trust that moving forward would be beneficial.” Trusting in the future helps build healthier relationships.

3. Master the Pause

Emotionally intelligent parents are good at pausing before reacting. Heather said, “This is the difference between reacting and responding.” Taking a moment to consider your response can lead to more thoughtful and constructive interactions.

4. Honor Everyone’s Process

Recognize that everyone is doing their best and learning. Heather said emotionally intelligent parents, “give grace to other people, and give grace to ourselves.” This habit fosters empathy and understanding in relationships.

5. Be Optimistic

Optimism changes the way we see everything and gives us power. Heather noted, “People who are optimistic tend to offer or engage in random acts of kindness all the time.” This positive outlook can improve your interactions and relationships.

6. Move Every Day

Physical activity is linked to emotional well-being. Heather emphasized, “Emotionally intelligent individuals move their bodies somehow every day.” Whether it’s a walk or playing with your kids, movement helps clear your mind and improve your mood.

By incorporating these habits into your daily life, you can become a more emotionally intelligent parent, fostering a positive and supportive environment for your children and yourself.

To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.