The Sandwich Parent: Balancing Care for Aging Parents and Children

If you’re a sandwich parent, make sure to set aside time for you.

They’re called “Sandwich Parents.” It’s those who care for both their aging parents and their children at the same time. Typically, these caregivers are women aged between 40 and 60, managing the dual responsibilities of childcare and eldercare within their homes. It’s a stage of life that has its challenges with work that often goes unrecognized.

Studio 5 Parenting Contributor Heather Johnson urged “Sandwich Parents” to find the blessings too.

The Challenges of Being a Sandwich Parent

1. Time Strain: Juggling the care for both children and aging parents doubles the daily responsibilities, leaving little time for self-care.
2. Emotional Strain: Feelings of guilt and shame are common, as caregivers often feel they are not doing enough for either their children or their parents.
3. Financial Strain: The financial burden can be significant, with many caregivers needing to reduce work hours or forgo promotions to manage their caregiving duties.
4. Isolation: The unique challenges faced by sandwich parents can lead to feelings of isolation, as those not in the same situation may not fully understand the experience.

Finding the Silver Lining

Despite the challenges, Heather emphasized the importance of recognizing the benefits of being a sandwich parent:

• Strengthened Relationships: Caring for both children and aging parents can lead to stronger, more empathetic relationships.
• Skill Development: The experience fosters the development of new skills and personal growth.
• Unique Rewards: The sacrifices you make can lead to a deep sense of fulfillment and connection.

Advice for Sandwich Parents

1. Be Intentional About Concerns: Identify and address specific worries, such as the potential neglect of children, by creating a working plan to ensure balanced attention.
2. Prioritize Relationships: Focus on maintaining strong relationships, as they are crucial for navigating the challenges of caregiving.
3. Self-Care: Designate a personal space in your home to retreat and recharge. Ensure you are eating well, sleeping enough, and finding time for yourself.
4. Seek Support: Make support a non-negotiable part of your plan. Reach out for help and resources before reaching a breaking point.

To contact Heather for counseling, email blog.familyvolley@gmail.com, or visit www.familyvolley.blogspot.com.