Under pressure to let your kids go hi-tech? Get expert advice on when to let
children have a cell phone, open a Facebook account and more. Studio 5
Contributor and therapist, Julie Hanks, has tips to help you manage kids and
1) At what age should a child have a cell phone?
Age 12 is the earliest I’d recommend a basic cell phone for safety
Age 16 is the earliest for smart phones.
Tech Tip: Encourage responsibility by having them pay for monthly
any additional charges.
Tech Tip: Have child check in phone at night, before bedtime.
2) At what age should a child have a Facebook account?
Age 14-15 with parental oversight of online activity. Facebook
agree that you are at least 13 before you can set up an account.
Tech Tip: Have current login information to child’s social media
check them randomly.
Tech Tip: Require that your child add you as a “friend”.
3) At what age should a child have a video game system?
Ages 4 + activity based games on Wii or Xbox Kinect. Games
should focus on
physical activity, social skills, and basic decision making skills.
Age 8 + for Handheld devices like 3DS or PSP. Games should focus
development of interests, increased confidence and competence in their
Age 14 + for more intense games.
Tech Tip: limit gaming time and encourage social and physical
Tech Tip: Beware of violence first-person shooter games as they
4) At what age should your child have an iPod Touch/iPad?
Ages 12 is the youngest age for iPod Touch/iPad, and only with
restrictions. Identity is the main developmental task during teenage years.
Music, entertainment and playing games are a large part of adolescent
Tech Tip: Get familiar with device “settings” so you can restrict web
app installation, YouTube, etc.
5) At what age should a child have a laptop?
Age 18 is the age I’d recommend unsupervised use of laptop.
Tech Tip: All computer usage should be in open area of home and
More Parenting Tech Tips:
· There is no such thing as confidentiality when it comes to internet/wifi
· Parents should have log in and passwords to all online accounts, phones,
· No phones, TV’s, or computers, iPad devices in bedrooms or after hours
for safety and good sleep habits.
· Most tech gadgets have Internet access so monitor closely.
· Check and set parental controls on all electronic devices.
· No unsupervised Internet access on personal devices until 18.
Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW is a therapist, self & relationship expert, media
contributor and director of Wasatch Family Therapy. Visit
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