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Dealing With Regret: 3 ways to kick the “coulda, shoulda, woulda’s”

It’s never too late to start dealing with regret.

Regret is a pesky burden we know we don’t want, but can’t seem to shake! After all, it’s possible to regret both what you did and what you didn’t do.

Author and speaker Connie Sokol claims we can act now to avoid regret later. Good news, it’s never too late. She tells us how to kick the “shoulda, coulda, woulda” regret.

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Dealing With Regret

Too often as women, mothers, and professionals our energy can be depleted by living in the past of what didn’t I do/what shouldn’t I have done. But that robs us of the present joy and even future rich experiences. Try these three ways to stay clear, open, and growing into what is yet to be.


#1. Remember the Why.

As women we can hold onto past perspectives, then compare with other women’s present realities. The way we parented, or showed up for others. Instead, we can remember all the players and pieces of the experience–trust that we did the best we could with what we had


#2. It’s never too late. 

Sometimes we think because we didn’t jump on something at the time, or were clueless, or not brave, that we missed the boat. No!

“I want to. I get to. I choose to.” – Dave Blanchard


#3. Connect with purpose-driven women. 

If you’re surrounded by “we’re out to pasture” women that’s all you’ll focus on. See the possibilities of THIS STAGE of life rather than, I’m old, I’m tired, I’m not very talented….becomes I’ve got life wisdom and experience, I have extra time. I can purposely use, I can learn new skills to bless others

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