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Are you a distracted spouse? Be a present partner with these 5 strategies

In an age of constant distraction, be a present partner in five ways.

Technology has been a lifesaver during the pandemic. With social media to meet new friends and get out when we’ve had to stay in, video chat technology that allows us to have face-to-face conversations miles away. We have a library of shows available at our fingertips and games to keep us.  Technology has made life a bit sweeter it also has introduced compelling ways to steal our attention away at any moment.

Kristin Hodson, LCSW, has five ways to be more present in your relationship. From the dings, to the tweets, to the new series that just dropped, being a present with your partner is more important than ever.

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5 Ways to be a Present Partner

Let go of the to do list and into the to be list

“This is more an intention with the moments that are already happening in our relationships than adding one more thing that needs to get done. It’s being present with where you are, with what you’re doing with who you’re with. Being present really is practicing an awareness to be connected,” says Kristin.

Ditch the Distractions

One of the best ways we can help ourselves be more present is to remove distractions. When we’re watching a movie, having a conversation, eating a meal, we can turn off our phone, take off our watch that pings or close the computer. Even just 30 minutes of distractions free time will create more connections.

Practice presence with yourself

As mothers, multitasking is part of the gig. But if we set up moments that are already occurring to practice being present like when we eat lunch, working on a project, involved in a task a and we do that one thing we strengthen our muscles of being present for a stretch of time.

Up your relationship habits and rituals

When we develop rituals such as having a 15 minute connecting conversation before bed (free of distractions) we get in the habit of regular moments where we are present with each other.

Be Present With Your Body Language

We can be present with our body language through our facial expressions that reflect excitement or understanding, eye contact, or a simple reaching out for your partners hand.

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