Here’s how to adopt an attitude of enough.
There’s an art to feeling like you are enough and that you have enough. It can be a difficult feeling to fully embrace, but it’s essential for personal contentment and growth.
Author and speaker Connie Sokol emphasized the importance of embracing an attitude of “enough.” She explained that true contentment and confidence come from knowing and accepting who you are, where you are, and what you’re doing.
Connie noted that societal pressures, such as social media and neighborhood comparisons, often make it difficult for women to feel adequate. “We literally as women just have to get off of this people-pleasing treadmill because it will never be enough to feel enough,” she said.
Radically Accept Yourself
Connie introduced the concept of radical acceptance, a term popularized by Lindsay Garlock, who faced personal challenges. Garlock’s approach involves fully accepting where you are, who you are, and what you’re doing. She uses her own physical appearance, specifically a prominent mole on her forehead, to teach her children and others that differences don’t need to be fixed or hidden.
“When you accept yourself, you give others permission to accept themselves,” she explains.
Balancing Acceptance and Growth
While radical acceptance is crucial, it doesn’t mean abandoning personal growth. Connie advised against the mindset of “I’ll be happy when…” Instead, she encouraged embracing who you are now and finding joy in the present. This approach allows for growth and expansion from a place of self-love rather than self-criticism.
Comparison Kills
Comparison is a significant barrier to feeling enough. Connie reminded us that designer labels and societal standards are not prerequisites for joy.
She shared a personal anecdote about feeling out of place at a Pilates class but ultimately focusing on her purpose rather than others’ perceptions. “I’m here to get a workout, not walk the runway,” she said. This shift in focus allowed her to enjoy the experience and connect with others authentically.
Owning Your Unique Style
Owning your unique style, both internally and externally, is a powerful way to embrace self-acceptance. Connie recalled a moment from her childhood when she proudly wore unique shoes despite teasing from peers. This confidence has stayed with her, serving as a reminder to embrace individuality.
Find more advice from Connie at conniesokol.com.
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