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Feel more safe in your marriage. 5 communication principles to implement

Communication is important to feel more safe in your marriage.

Communication is key! We hear it all the time, but it’s true. So, let’s get better at it.

Studio 5 Relationship Contributor Dr. Matt Townsend a seasoned communication expert with over 30 years of experience, unveils five powerful communication principles that will strengthen your marriage and foster emotional safety.

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Feel More Safe in Your Marriage with Better Communication

Teammates, Not Competitors

Comparing a relationship to a championship team, Dr. Townsend advocates for a mindset shift: viewing each other as teammates. Being direct yet forgiving, understanding, and cheering each other on fosters a sense of unity, creating a safe environment for healthy communication.

Communicate to Understand, Not to Convince

Matt emphasizes the significance of genuine listening and understanding in conversations. Moving away from trying to persuade someone toward your viewpoint, he highlights the power of understanding as a precursor to influence.

Validation: Addressing Core Needs

Identifying and validating fundamental needs—love, belonging, capability, and safety—during conversations can prevent potential conflicts from escalating. Acknowledging these needs helps in diffusing tension and nurturing a sense of security.

Openness to Influence

Dr. Townsend challenges the notion that understanding equates to agreement. He advocates for embracing differing perspectives and emotions without compromising individuality, fostering a deeper level of connection.

Offering the Highest Good

Lastly, Matt encourages everyone to be the best version of oneself in every interaction. By consciously offering the best response, one can prevent conflicts and contribute positively to the conversation.

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