What to Say When: Surviving Sticky Social Situations

Therapist Julie A. Hanks, LCSW, Owner and Director of Wasatch Family Therapy shares her favorite phrases for handling sticky social situations.






Social Situations

Sticky
Social Situation

Example Try
Saying This
You’re
asked to do something you don’t want to
do and it’s hard to say “no”.
An
extended family member informs you that they
are staying with you over Spring Break and you already have a full
house.
“That’s
just not going to work for me.”

You’re
feeling pressured to answer on the spot

A
friend asks you about your recent marital separation
in the company of others.
“Let
me get back with you on that .”
You’re
asked about someone else’s personal life
Your
neighbor asks you about details of your
best friend’s financial problems
“That’s
a good question to ask her/him.”

You’re
in a heated debate or disagreement.

You
and your spouse get in a no-win debate about
whose fault that you were late for an important event.
“We
can think different things and still be
friends.”

Someone
is expressing intense emotion about you directly to you.

Your
toddler screams in the grocery store, “I
hate you, mommy!”

“Wow!
You’re really (feeling word) at
me.”

You
want to make a difficult request of someone
else.
Your
mother-in-law frequently gives unsolicited
parenting, cooking, weight loss advice and you want her to only give
advice
when you ask for it.
“It
would mean a lot to me if (your request).”




Licensed Therapist Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW, founder and director of “wasatchfamilytherapy.com”target=blank>Wasatch Family Therapy, specializes in women’s mental health, marriage counseling, & family therapy. Visit www.wasatchfamilytherapy.com to learn more about counseling services, workshops, classes. Visit www.juliehanks.com for more inspiration on how to improve your life and your relationships!

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